Can men and women be just friends?

[magissa]

hey guys im doing research on whether men and women can be friends without attraction getting in the the way. so if your over 18, heterosexual and have a friend of the opposite sex could you pleaseeeee do my online survey. hopefully we can finally get some answers!

thanks

http://www.media.swin.edu.au/surveyor/survey.asp?s=01237222228079097

[thayne]

Can men and women be just friends?

Why? whats the point?

[888888]

If said female is fugly. And even then...

[northcat_8]

If she's ugly...and I'm out of beer. :P

[Cobra]

I completed the questionnaire. It took about five minutes - not as long for a friend who was discounted after question 4!

Hope the study goes well - it seems to ask a lot of questions that I feel related to pinching my best mate's girlfriend! She's a great woman, and they have something special but as asked in the survey, she's more a sister to me than anything else so I couldn't try anything. It would violate two friendships so deeply I couldn't deal with it.

Cobra

[Ripper2860]

... It would violate two friends so deeply I couldn't deal with it.

Cobra!! Shame on you! You always seemed a nice sort and never one to be a party to a "Rough Sex with my Best Friend and His Girl friend" menage !!! You Perv !!

[tgpo]

Man. How long is this this?

ps. Was I suppose to read the paragraph at the beginning?

Done. I've been just friends with a girl that lives in the house behind me. We've known each other for about 16 years and we've only been friends. I consider her more of a sister than anything else. Although she is hot

[Hatz]

"Can men and women be just friends"


NO. Cause if does sleep with you then she is a friend with benefits....and if she doesnt sleep with you than she is just a bitch.

:P

Hatz

[bottle-necked]

If she's ugly...and I'm out of beer. :P

[thayne]

Man. How long is this this?

ps. Was I suppose to read the paragraph at the beginning?

Done. I've been just friends with a girl that lives in the house behind me. We've known each other for about 16 years and we've only been friends. I consider her more of a sister than anything else. Although she is hot

Damn! More material for Jeex....

[pacmania_2001]

Look up the ladder theory as to why men and woman can't be just friends. Better yet why don't I link it:

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

[glockjs]

already tried it and she wasnt giving me any. so i had to break off the friendship

[thayne]

Look up the ladder theory as to why men and woman can't be just friends. Better yet why don't I link it:

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

There are exactly 3 cases Intellectual Whores has identified whereby a guy and a girl can be friends:

• The guy is gay
  The guy does not find you attractive.
  The guy already has a woman much higher than you on the ladder

LMAO!

[Cobra]

Ripper,

...she's more a sister to me than anything else so I couldn't try anything.

Read it all before you jump to conclusions!

Cobra

[Hardcoreruss]

If she's ugly...and I'm out of beer. :P

I second that

[Ripper2860]

Cobra,

The fact that you think of her as your "sister" and and still violate her deeply -- well that is just plain WRONG !!!


BTW -- I did read the whole post. I purposely mis-quoted you for dramatic affect -- changed the word friendship to friends. Yeah -- I was bored and thought I would "spice" things up a little. Create a little controversy.




Alright -- I'll stop .....



.... for now !!!

[shoozleboy]

Can men and women be just friends?

Only if I can still have sex with them! (women, that is!)

[Capmaster]

Most men look at a woman and the first thing we size up are the "Big Three":

1) face,
2) ass,
3) boobs
Not necessarily in that order.

If those measure up we look for the "secondary factors" - finer points like bad breath, missing teeth, large bank account, flatulence, body odor, a mustache or beard, mental illness, personality and other factors that could put spin on the first big three factors.

But let's face it ...the big three factors ARE the first ones we measure them by. If they pass the first three, then we look to see if they have a good sense of humor and a great personality. If they don't, lay pipe and take a hike, or eat at the "Y", lay pipe and then take a hike. If they do have personality, maybe this is the girl of your dreams. Revert back to "secondary factors" and reevaluate.

From this we get relationships. Friendship is never a factor and has never been part of the male agenda. Female "friends" are what we get when they won't let us buzz the brillo.

Look at two of the most successful sitcoms: Seinfeld and Friends. Both deal with very attractive single women who maintain friendships with single men. In the case of Friends, they don't stay friends forever: Chandler and Monica, Ross and Rachel, and even Joey and Rachel. Part of the show's appeal is watching it and not only admiring Rachel, Phoebe and Monica, but trying to will the guy friends to "give her a poke" through the power of suggestion. One that comes to mind is when Chandler and Phoebe pretended to be hot for each other but couldn't back down because they wanted to save face. They got into a situation where I wouldn't have had the willpower to resist Phoebe - I would have thrown her on the couch and given her a good rodgering, even with Monica in the bathroom listening

In Seinfeld Jerry and Elaine can't remain strictly friends. They worked out a way to saw off a chunk from time to time and made up rules so their friendship wouldn't suffer.

It couldn't be done. I don't think men and women can be friends like men and men can. The urge to merge is just too strong.

[glockjs]

Capmaster

Most men look at a woman and the first thing we size up are the "Big Three":

1) face,
2) ass,
3) boobs

i dunno, i like to look at a sessy tummy and a nice thighs too

[indolikaa]

Can men and women be just friends?

I hope to hell they can just be friends! I don't wanna hear about what a brother and sister might be doing otherwise!

[northcat_8]

Cap makes some very good points. Those are the big 3 and not necessarily in that order

So basically survey taker person...virtually all men are trying to have sex with virtually every woman...marriage happens when you find one and you start having sex with that one and you either:

A) want to keep having sex with her and one morning you wake up married. OR
B) get too lazy to track down another one, so you wait until one comes looking for you and by the time that happens you end up married.

***men don't see marriage as a lifetime union, etc, etc...they see it as a great weekend of sex...we don't plan that far in advance

Fact is every wife in the world started out as some chick that the guy was trying to **** and then he fell into either part A or part B above.

I wish it was a more philosophical reason than that and had deeper meaning, but it doesn't. There is a reason why married women around the globe will tell other women "don't let another woman stay in your house." There is a reason guys have the knickname "dog"...although, leg humping is frowned on in a few of the bars I frequent.

[glockjs]

what do you think the midwest is for indolikaa

[Capmaster]

Cap makes some very good points. Those are the big 3 and not necessarily in that order

So basically survey taker person...virtually all men are trying to have sex with virtually every woman...marriage happens when you find one and you start having sex with that one and you either:

A) want to keep having sex with her and one morning you wake up married. OR
B) get too lazy to track down another one, so you wait until one comes looking for you and by the time that happens you end up married.

***men don't see marriage as a lifetime union, etc, etc...they see it as a great weekend of sex...we don't plan that far in advance

Fact is every wife in the world started out as some chick that the guy was trying to **** and then he fell into either part A or part B above.

I wish it was a more philosophical reason than that and had deeper meaning, but it doesn't. There is a reason why married women around the globe will tell other women "don't let another woman stay in your house." There is a reason guys have the knickname "dog"...although, leg humping is frowned on in a few of the bars I frequent.

Well put. And the bars I go to don't mind a little leg-humping. Then again they don't mind vinyl either

[indolikaa]

Cap makes some very good points. Those are the big 3 and not necessarily in that order

So basically survey taker person...virtually all men are trying to have sex with virtually every woman...marriage happens when you find one and you start having sex with that one and you either:

A) want to keep having sex with her and one morning you wake up married. OR
B) get too lazy to track down another one, so you wait until one comes looking for you and by the time that happens you end up married.

***men don't see marriage as a lifetime union, etc, etc...they see it as a great weekend of sex...we don't plan that far in advance

Fact is every wife in the world started out as some chick that the guy was trying to **** and then he fell into either part A or part B above.

I wish it was a more philosophical reason than that and had deeper meaning, but it doesn't. There is a reason why married women around the globe will tell other women "don't let another woman stay in your house." There is a reason guys have the knickname "dog"...although, leg humping is frowned on in a few of the bars I frequent.

I must also agree with Capmaster, although the only thing I stare at are her tits and ass. She has a face, but I don't find myself looking at that as much.

Hell, I've been married for almost 10 years and she still scolds me in public restaurants for talking to her breasts instead of her face.

[Capmaster]

Cap makes some very good points. Those are the big 3 and not necessarily in that order

So basically survey taker person...virtually all men are trying to have sex with virtually every woman...marriage happens when you find one and you start having sex with that one and you either:

A) want to keep having sex with her and one morning you wake up married. OR
B) get too lazy to track down another one, so you wait until one comes looking for you and by the time that happens you end up married.

***men don't see marriage as a lifetime union, etc, etc...they see it as a great weekend of sex...we don't plan that far in advance

Fact is every wife in the world started out as some chick that the guy was trying to **** and then he fell into either part A or part B above.

I wish it was a more philosophical reason than that and had deeper meaning, but it doesn't. There is a reason why married women around the globe will tell other women "don't let another woman stay in your house." There is a reason guys have the knickname "dog"...although, leg humping is frowned on in a few of the bars I frequent.

I must also agree with Capmaster, although the only thing I stare at are her tits and ass. She has a face, but I don't find myself looking at that as much.

Hell, I've been married for almost 10 years and she still scolds me in public restaurants for talking to her breasts instead of her face.

Good thing you don't have an ass-fetish or she'd never be seen in public with you

[indolikaa]

Good thing you don't have an ass-fetish or she'd never be seen in public with you

Good one.

[northcat_8]

Good thing you don't have an ass-fetish or she'd never be seen in public with you

Actually that's how my wife and I got barred from Krogers. (But that was sometime back...before kids) They called it "unexceptable public display of affection."

[indolikaa]

There is no such thing as an 'unacceptable display of public affection!'

That were the case, Wal-Mart would've 1) never allowed us in their stores again, 2) already distributed their security tapes as official 'Indolikaa Special Bootlegs' edition DVDs.

[northcat_8]

We were just doing some grocery shopping...she bent over to pick up some oranges and that's when the incident happened....it's all kind of a blur, I must have blacked out...when I came too ( )...we were in the security office and 3 people were standing there mad at us....



@magissa~

Actually thinking back into the foggy past, I do think "men and women can be friends without attraction getting in the the way". For example, I have a great great friend, and she is BAD...6'1", long blonde hair, dark skin, athlete. I would do her in church. We are great friends and attraction doesn't get in the way. I should tell you that sex is actually how we became friends. I met her back in the day sometime, we went out a few times, had sex many times and then she was gone for a while and while she was gone I met my wife and got married. When she came back, she was married. And we resumed our friendship. Our friendship is not strained at all, matter of fact I think we are closer friends. Although many jokes and laughs we have our respective spouses do not get.

Now don't get me wrong, my wife does not leave me alone with her and her husband doesn't leave her alone with me...I wonder if that's kind of a 6th sense or something...but it's probably a good idea they don't leave us alone together (can you get a group rate for divorces? :P kidding).

If the truth be known, had she not left for a few years in there we would probably have gotten married. She turned out to be one of my best friends, she's a German-Catholic girl, loves beer (not a sloppy drunk), very cool...at the bar she was just one of the guys, never got upset, never got jealous...sometimes I have to ask myself "WTF were you thinking dumbass?" and I find myself with step A as the answer.

[Capmaster]

We were just doing some grocery shopping...she bent over to pick up some oranges and that's when the incident happened....it's all kind of a blur

I would pay good money to get a peek at the grocery store surveillance cam that day