Compatibility of DVD±RW

[Booooom]

Hello,
I have a Graetz AV-290 dvd player and I need to find a competible DVD±RW. So far I have tried the following DVD±RWs:
Memorex. My DVD wasn't able to read any of them.
I am using Nec DVD burner ND-3520A.

1. Does anyone of you know of any compatible either DVD+RW or DVD-RW to this DVD?
2. I have burnt my vidoes using NeroVisionExpress ver.3.0.1.4. is there any relevance to that, i.e. had I have used a different authoring program, my DVD would have been able to read the RWs?
3. I have used Winxp build-in drivers for my burner, is there a point updating the drivers?

Thanks

[Cobra]

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