pc wont play dvd, ps2 will

[motive_]

im renting an anime from netflix(full metal panic) and it cannot be read by my pc. other dvd's of mine work fine on it. the anime will work in my ps2 and other dvd players though.
when i put it in the pc, the green light goes on, the drive doesnt make any noises. and windows doesnt react to the disc. and i cant eject the disc, i have to put the paper clip through the hole to pop it out, after i push the tray the light still flashes for like 5 mins, then makes some click noise and goes to normal.

any suggestions to get this anime to work in my pc? its an HP a450n, xp pro, NTFS, DVD+RW 4x drive, just reformatted like 2 hours ago. i tried to update the firmware but for some reason, hp's update wont detect my optical drive

[glockjs]

what did you reformat?

[motive_]

i reformatted my hdd, not the dvd disc ;p

[gitreel]

were you doing anything in the background when you were updating your firmware? If so, you probably ruined your drive.

[motive_]

no i never updated the firmware, other dvds still work perfectly fine. anime i borrowed from a friend seems to work in my drive also... and the full metal panic dvd works fine in my uncle's dvd drive

[gitreel]

that was not what I asked. When you tried to update were you doing anything else as well in the background? Even surfing the internet while upgrading can torch your drive?

[motive_]

well, i dont think it installed anything, it just loads an exe and 'read contents of the package' and then it says the optical drive not found, your driver does NOT need an update, and i hit ok and it exits